I understand wanting to have a large family. Large families have lots of little warm bodies and big, fuzzy, loud dinners around the table, huge holiday laughter, sibling love/torture, fierce celebrations, companions in the craziness and witnesses to the insanity.
I think that every child born is a blessing. Deserving of all the morsels of love that exist in the universe. Needing all the positive energy available.
I think it sounds amazing to have a babe grow in your belly. To love them through the process and to be in awe and inspired by the beauty.
I also think that we have limited natural resources. I believe in zero population growth.
I “get” wanting to have a biological baby. I get even having two. When I hear my people (the ones that are educated and have resources for other options) planning their third, forth, fifth, etc. I get confused. I also don’t “get” Octomom or the Kate/John 8 people.
Perhaps part of the question I have is “why isn’t adoption an option?” You know about my experience? Obviously being the single most powerful and beautiful experience of my life. Additionally, let’s not forget, many precious children need families. Where is the social responsibility? Where is the responsibility to Mother Earth? We are leaving the Earth to these children we love so endlessly. Don’t we want to do what we can? Is it because people actually believe that we have unlimited resources? That it doesn’t/shouldn’t apply to them? Or perhaps their genes are so extraordinary that more is in fact better?
I know at the beginning of the adoption process we were told some CRAZY things like, “don’t waste your genes” and “oh, we want you to HAVE a baby.”
But they were crazy things. At least to us.
I just don’t get it, so I thought I’d throw my confusion out into the universe.