Here's another little post I wrote forever ago. After hearing a friend tell me about her perfect in-between person today, I decided to post it. I've been dealing with a lot of ugliness lately and it helps to be reminded that a little niceness paired with good advice CAN actually help.
Years ago, I didn't think I would be a good mom. I had even been told this by a few others.
I also didn't think I was smart. My older sister was the smart one (still is). I hoped I had something. I just didn't know what that something was.
Then, I met with Dr. OTK.
"You need to go to grad school. You're smart. I know you have kids..."
I quickly corrected him, "I don't have kids."
With a puzzled look, he continued, "Maybe I thought you had kids because you are the most maternal person that I have ever met. Anyway, you're smart. You need to go to grad school. I will make sure you get in. I will stand up and fight for you if necessary."
In one conversation, I changed how I looked at myself. I left thinking "I can do great things professionally in my life. I have the potential to be a good enough mom."
He was not TOO close to me, where I thought he might just be talking to make me feel good. He was not a stranger who didn't know what he was talking about. He had no personal agenda. He was that perfect in-between person, who I thought knew enough.
I never got to thank him. He passed away a few years ago. I wish I had. Now I just have to remind myself to be that perfect in-between person for someone else. Or at least aspire to be.
Thank you Dr. OTK. I don't know who I'd be without you.